Call me Mot.

Age: 20-sumfin

Sex: Female

Preferred Pronouns: "she/her" (everyday use), "they/them" (when I'm feeling megalomaniacal), "that smeg-head" (when I'm being a jerk)

Location: Somewhere in the deep, dark recesses of Nowheres-ville, in Red-Neck County, Mid-Western America

Fandoms: Mostly Classic Doctor Who, but some Red Dwarf and H2G2 love can be found.


******************Disclaimers*********************

If I'm rude to you, it's likely I don't mean to be. I'm socially awkward at times, can be naïve, brutally honest, and can come across as insensitive. If this happens, please tell me and I will apologize and adjust my behavior accordingly.

Apologies for any un- or mis-tagged items; I'm still getting the hang of this internet contraption. Old-fashioned clocks are what I'm more comfortable with. Technology is not my forte, to the point that my being able to operate as much of this site as I have is a "pigs are flying planes" type of miracle.

 

furiouscuddles:

animeadult:

for-transmen:

If you’ve been looking to bind, whether you’re transgender, non-binary, or a cosplayer, you’ve probably come across binders like these on Ebay, Amazon, or AliExpress. Usually they’re called E.V.A, SHO, Whatwears, or Ancient Fish King brands, all of which are apparently, interchangeable with each other. Ross is here to tell you that these chest binders are not much of a step up from ace bandages, which in case you hadn’t known already, are the worst thing you can do to bind your chest. So here’s the run down, from least bad to worst.

First off, the sellers are usually misinformed about why someone would use a chest binder is needed just from how they title them. Why would Lesbians want a chest binder (outside of cosplay?)? I don’t know, but most of these listings have lesbian in the name, suggesting that chest binders are for girls, not men or nonbinary. This right there should be a warning sign of a company that doesn’t know what they are doing.

The strapless binders’ model is wearing the wrong size for their chest. Their breast is popping out over the top of the binder, and I can personally say that with that binder, it is very, very, painful if you have a larger chest. After about 20 minutes, bruising and chaffing will occur, especially to those with larger chests or are heavier. In the worst case scenario, the breast will rip or pop as if it were cut with a knife.

Look at the materials used. These chest binders do not have any or enough stretchy material in them. Elastic or spandex is the best. On the ones that do have spandex, they don’t mention how much there is in the binder. This is an enormous, bright, flashing sign that the binder is NOT safe. Just how bad is it? Ace bandages likely have more elastic than these binders do, and the ace bandages can still kill you if they don’t maim you. A binder is supposed to stretch, be easily manipulated, and you must be able to take a full breath in them. I’ve bought and used two different types binders from Ebay not knowing any better, and I could barely take a breath at all. I did get larger and larger sizes, and with the same result. Putting it simply, their binders could be falling off of you because they are too big and still would not be safe. 
Now I can’t show you in a picture about the next part, but what’s probably the worst about these binders is that their ‘binding’ material goes all the way around the binder. Your binder should NOT have this unless it is made to correct back posture. Sports bras can, but that is better for again, correcting back posture. So not only will you be binding your chest, but you’ll be binding your ribs, back, and shoulders as well. This can warp them and damage the tissue. 
So what does a good binder look like? I’m going to use the binder I’ve had the best experience with as an example. The Ultimate Chest Binder Tank by underworks. I’ve bought two of these as I’ve needed them, I wore out my old one after a year and a half of use daily including at work.
So, straight off from the site, we know this seller is knowledgeable about their target audience. Chest binders are under the men’s section and you never see the word lesbian on any of them. The only thing marked for women under the chest binder section is a sports bra, put there because transgender men often use them for working out.

The information section on the binder isn’t just two or three lines, it’s a whole paragraph. What is this binder made of? Medical grade 70% nylon and 30% spandex knit. It says it right there and is readily available information, you don’t have to dig through the seller’s ads for cheap wholesale jewelry in the description to find it. The listing also tells us how much of each material is used, information you must have when buying a chest binder. My personal rule of thumb? If it’s under 20% spandex or elastic, it’s trash. Our listing also tells us how to put the binder on, rather than making you struggle to figure it out on your own. Size chart and customer reviews are readily available on the listing and not buried under ads for other unrelated merchandise. 

Also from looking at the binder’s pictures, the front and back of the binder is made differently; the front is thicker and non transparent while the back can bee seen through a bit and is thin in comparison. This is because the front of the binder is made to compress and bind the chest and the back of the binder is not. All the binding is in the front, support in the back. 
Please, know the difference between an unsafe binder and a safe one. Save your money and avoid ones found on ebay. Can’t afford a binder still? There are programs for people who cannot buy one on their own or it is unsafe for them to buy one. One such I know of is the In a Bind program, they have fantastic service if a bit slow delivery time. Remember, this program is only for transgender men and nonbinary, cosplayers will have to go elsewhere or outright buy a binder.

THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU
i’m sorry i don’t usually comment on posts but i keep trying to tell people this over and over again and a lot of the time nobody listens (hopefully they will now because this is an excellently constructed post)
an ebay binder pushed in one of my ribs and i barely wore it for any time at all (just less than an hour for convenience in my own backyard) because i knew it was bad but it seriously injured me that quickly.
the biggest problem is most people who give these things positive reviews have NEVER HAD A SAFE, PROPER BINDER BEFORE. therefore those positive reviews cannot be trusted! they don’t know how an actual binder is supposed to feel.
this is why i urge people not to include cheap ebay binders in their giveaways, especially. it’s not a game and it doesn’t matter how “safe” you are when using them or how well you advise people- they are NOT SAFE.
don’t harm people by trying to make it seem like it’s okay just because you want a couple more followers or to give something away because it’s cheap.

i cannot signal boost this enough, i had the ebay binder as my first binder so i didn’t know that it wasn’t meant to do any of the problems that i had with it, i thought that was just how binders were.
i wasn’t able to take a full breath in it even with it on the loosest setting, and it didn’t even bind well? i wore it quite rarely because when i did i got hot flashes, dizziness because i couldn’t breathe properly and i would eventually have to take it off because i couldn’t take it.
i wore it to london mcm comic con and i nearly passed out as a result of this shitty binder plus all the walking. i had to sit down for a good twenty minutes before i could get up and i felt like shit for the rest of the day even after putting it on a looser setting. it’s seriously hurt my chest too and has i suspect damaged some of the tissue there. absolutely don’t buy these brands they do more harm than good.

furiouscuddles:

animeadult:

for-transmen:

If you’ve been looking to bind, whether you’re transgender, non-binary, or a cosplayer, you’ve probably come across binders like these on Ebay, Amazon, or AliExpress. Usually they’re called E.V.A, SHO, Whatwears, or Ancient Fish King brands, all of which are apparently, interchangeable with each other. Ross is here to tell you that these chest binders are not much of a step up from ace bandages, which in case you hadn’t known already, are the worst thing you can do to bind your chest. So here’s the run down, from least bad to worst.

Why is a chest binder for a lesbian?

First off, the sellers are usually misinformed about why someone would use a chest binder is needed just from how they title them. Why would Lesbians want a chest binder (outside of cosplay?)? I don’t know, but most of these listings have lesbian in the name, suggesting that chest binders are for girls, not men or nonbinary. This right there should be a warning sign of a company that doesn’t know what they are doing.

It's too tight!

The strapless binders’ model is wearing the wrong size for their chest. Their breast is popping out over the top of the binder, and I can personally say that with that binder, it is very, very, painful if you have a larger chest. After about 20 minutes, bruising and chaffing will occur, especially to those with larger chests or are heavier. In the worst case scenario, the breast will rip or pop as if it were cut with a knife.

These materials are not good

Look at the materials used. These chest binders do not have any or enough stretchy material in them. Elastic or spandex is the best. On the ones that do have spandex, they don’t mention how much there is in the binder. This is an enormous, bright, flashing sign that the binder is NOT safe. Just how bad is it? Ace bandages likely have more elastic than these binders do, and the ace bandages can still kill you if they don’t maim you. A binder is supposed to stretch, be easily manipulated, and you must be able to take a full breath in them. I’ve bought and used two different types binders from Ebay not knowing any better, and I could barely take a breath at all. I did get larger and larger sizes, and with the same result. Putting it simply, their binders could be falling off of you because they are too big and still would not be safe. 

Now I can’t show you in a picture about the next part, but what’s probably the worst about these binders is that their ‘binding’ material goes all the way around the binder. Your binder should NOT have this unless it is made to correct back posture. Sports bras can, but that is better for again, correcting back posture. So not only will you be binding your chest, but you’ll be binding your ribs, back, and shoulders as well. This can warp them and damage the tissue. 

So what does a good binder look like? I’m going to use the binder I’ve had the best experience with as an example. The Ultimate Chest Binder Tank by underworks. I’ve bought two of these as I’ve needed them, I wore out my old one after a year and a half of use daily including at work.

So, straight off from the site, we know this seller is knowledgeable about their target audience. Chest binders are under the men’s section and you never see the word lesbian on any of them. The only thing marked for women under the chest binder section is a sports bra, put there because transgender men often use them for working out.

YES! Good binder!

The information section on the binder isn’t just two or three lines, it’s a whole paragraph. What is this binder made of? Medical grade 70% nylon and 30% spandex knit. It says it right there and is readily available information, you don’t have to dig through the seller’s ads for cheap wholesale jewelry in the description to find it. The listing also tells us how much of each material is used, information you must have when buying a chest binder. My personal rule of thumb? If it’s under 20% spandex or elastic, it’s trash. Our listing also tells us how to put the binder on, rather than making you struggle to figure it out on your own. Size chart and customer reviews are readily available on the listing and not buried under ads for other unrelated merchandise. 

Also from looking at the binder’s pictures, the front and back of the binder is made differently; the front is thicker and non transparent while the back can bee seen through a bit and is thin in comparison. This is because the front of the binder is made to compress and bind the chest and the back of the binder is not. All the binding is in the front, support in the back. 

Please, know the difference between an unsafe binder and a safe one. Save your money and avoid ones found on ebay. Can’t afford a binder still? There are programs for people who cannot buy one on their own or it is unsafe for them to buy one. One such I know of is the In a Bind program, they have fantastic service if a bit slow delivery time. Remember, this program is only for transgender men and nonbinary, cosplayers will have to go elsewhere or outright buy a binder.

THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU

i’m sorry i don’t usually comment on posts but i keep trying to tell people this over and over again and a lot of the time nobody listens (hopefully they will now because this is an excellently constructed post)

an ebay binder pushed in one of my ribs and i barely wore it for any time at all (just less than an hour for convenience in my own backyard) because i knew it was bad but it seriously injured me that quickly.

the biggest problem is most people who give these things positive reviews have NEVER HAD A SAFE, PROPER BINDER BEFORE. therefore those positive reviews cannot be trusted! they don’t know how an actual binder is supposed to feel.

this is why i urge people not to include cheap ebay binders in their giveaways, especially. it’s not a game and it doesn’t matter how “safe” you are when using them or how well you advise people- they are NOT SAFE.

don’t harm people by trying to make it seem like it’s okay just because you want a couple more followers or to give something away because it’s cheap.

i cannot signal boost this enough, i had the ebay binder as my first binder so i didn’t know that it wasn’t meant to do any of the problems that i had with it, i thought that was just how binders were.

i wasn’t able to take a full breath in it even with it on the loosest setting, and it didn’t even bind well? i wore it quite rarely because when i did i got hot flashes, dizziness because i couldn’t breathe properly and i would eventually have to take it off because i couldn’t take it.

i wore it to london mcm comic con and i nearly passed out as a result of this shitty binder plus all the walking. i had to sit down for a good twenty minutes before i could get up and i felt like shit for the rest of the day even after putting it on a looser setting. it’s seriously hurt my chest too and has i suspect damaged some of the tissue there. absolutely don’t buy these brands they do more harm than good.

question-mark-umbrella:

astrofreud:

courageous-link:

zombies-in-my-tea:

middle-earth-superwholockian:

My supervillain name is Fuck you I’m the White Bitch

Behold! The Decision To Give Up.Yes, that is me. 

Excuse me, America, it is I, the Buzzkill

My birthname spat out “The Obsessive One Who Leaves Passive Aggressive Post IT Notes Everywhere”

The Obsessive Buzzkill. Hmm, rather apt.

The Infamous Decision to Give Up.
My life in a nutshell right now.

question-mark-umbrella:

astrofreud:

courageous-link:

zombies-in-my-tea:

middle-earth-superwholockian:

My supervillain name is Fuck you I’m the White Bitch

Behold! The Decision To Give Up.

Yes, that is me. 

Excuse me, America, it is I, the Buzzkill

My birthname spat out “The Obsessive One Who Leaves Passive Aggressive Post IT Notes Everywhere”

The Obsessive Buzzkill. Hmm, rather apt.

The Infamous Decision to Give Up.

My life in a nutshell right now.

(Source: harryfloorcorn)

travelersinthedark:

datmeebs:

p0kemina:

genderisnotsex:

fictionalfeather:

Okay can I talk about my binder for a sec?

I’m a 34D, so all binders are awkward for me. Small band, large cup. So I never get quite flat, but some lumpy monstrosity with underboob poking out. But this one gets me the closest to flat while being the most comfortable binder I own.

And it looks like a tanktop!! And it was $10!!

It’s got stretchy bits on one side, and a line of bra-like clasps on the other that you can adjust to three different sizes, again like a bra. I didn’t overheat or even really sweat even when wearing it under a shirt in early summer pre-storm humidity. And once you get yourself situated just right, you can’t tell the tank is actually a binder.

Bam. Awesome.

$10.

EDIT: Here’s the link!

The listing has expired. Here’s a new link!

10 DOLLARIDOOS FOR ALL THE BABIES

I HAVE A MIGHTY NEED.

I HAVE ONE OF THESE! 

It is seriously the most amazing binder I have ever had. 

onna4:

"Tom is one of those people who oscillated between being one of the most wonderful, awesome, engaging people you have ever met, to someone you would gladly shove off a cliff.”
interview

onna4:

"Tom is one of those people who oscillated between being one of the most wonderful, awesome, engaging people you have ever met, to someone you would gladly shove off a cliff.”

interview

http://petehtork.tumblr.com/post/94814727502/gendest-because-a-lot-of-people-dont-seem-to

gendest:

because a lot of people dont seem to get this:

  • golems are from jewish folklore. dont treat them like a generic fantasy creature, thats appropriative
  • kabbalah is a specifically jewish religious tradition. dont practice it if youre not jewish and dont use kabbalah symbolism as…

Tumblr when People refute the Capaldi v Moffat argument rumour

Tumblr: You meddlesome hussy, do not touch the tumblr posts!

Everyone else: It's all over, Tumblr, it's not true.

Tumblr: No! Capaldi will fulfill his great promise! Capaldi be Praised!

Everyone else: Capaldi be praised? How many reliable sources have you seen today?

Tumblr: Don't dare blaspheme Capaldi!

Everyone else: How many?

Tumblr: Moffat will-

Everyone else: HOW MANY RELIABLE SOURCES?!!

Tumblr: None! I have seen none!

Everyone else: Well we've just seen a whole bunch of ridiculous posts claiming it to be fact! Face it Tumblr, you're making stuff up.

Tumblr: So this is the BLIND JOURNEY OF LIFE!

Everyone else: They're baseless rumours stemming from Capaldi's desire to not have romance that have been feeding your blind hatred and stupidity

Tumblr: MY DREAMS OF BLOOD FEUD!

Sexualities/Genders (And Other Terms One Should Know)

Heterosexual: Male-identifying individual sexually attracted to a female-identifying individual, and vice-versa.

Homosexual: Someone attracted to someone of the same gender as themselves.

Bisexual: Sexually attracted to two or more genders.

Polysexual: Sexually attracted to many genders, but not all.

Pansexual: Sexually attracted to all genders.

Demisexual: Sexually attracted to people only after forming a bond with them first.

Asexual: Having no /sexual attraction/ to others; having no desire to have sex.

Heteroromantic: Male-identifying individual romantically attracted to female-identifying individuals, and vice-versa.

Homoromantic: Attracted romantically to the same gender.

Biromantic: Attracted romantically to two or more genders

Polyromantic: Attracted to many genders (but not all)

Panromantic: Attracted romantically to all genders

Demiromantic: Romantically attracted to people only after forming a bond with them first.

Aromantic: Having no /romantic attraction/ to others; having no desire to be in a romantic relationship.

Polyamorous: Someone who is attracted to, and is comfortable with being in a relationship with more than one person at a time.

Transexual/Transgender (Term depending on generation and location): An individual who identifies as a gender other than the one they were assigned at birth to be. Often shortened to trans

Cisgender: Someone who identifies as the gender that they were assigned as at birth. (ex. matches their birth certificate) Often shortened to cis

Intersex: Someone who has ambiguous genitalia that doesn't fit into our strict dichotomy of uterus or testes. Often forced into surgery to correct their genitals at a very young age, causing psychological and physical harm later in life

Nonbinary: Outside of the gender binary of male and female. (Can be used as an umbrella term or as its own identity)

Genderqueer: Outside of the gender binary. (**This is not an umbrella term like the post said before I edited it! Do not use this as an umbrella term for nonbinary individuals, simply use 'nonbinary'. Queer is considered a slur and not everyone likes to be associated with the word)

Agender: Someone who feels gender neutral, or someone who experiences a 'lack' of gender.

Bigender: Someone who identifies as two separate genders.

Trigender: Someone who identifies as three separate genders.

Genderfluid: A gender that changes, or is 'fluid'.

Demigirl: Identifying partially as a woman, but not wholly.

Demiboy/guy: Identifying partially as a man, but not wholly.

Dmab: Designated Male at Birth.

Dfab: Designated Female at Birth.

Amab/Afab: Same as dmab/dmab, except with 'assigned' instead of 'designted'.

Camab/Cafab: Same as previous, except prefixed by 'coercively', to highlight the lack of choice.

Reblog to inform! And if there's any I missed or anything that should be clarified, please message me! Always looking to expand the proper vocab. : )

**I edited this post because it used some archaic and incorrect terms/definitions, and needed more terms added to it. -Vivian Mareepe